You’ve found the one. The love of your life. You’re planning a wedding, dreaming about your future and picturing a lifetime of shared memories. So, a prenup is not even in the picture.
But then you get a completely unexpected financial curveball is delivered. That’s what happened to one groom. In the middle of cake tastings and venue tours, he stumbled onto a discovery: His soon-to-be wife was carrying US$82,000 in credit card debt (1).
After years of building a stable financial foundation, he suddenly felt like it was the bottom of the ninth, with runners on base and the score tied and he was the last batter.
With the wedding date fast approaching and his fiancée unwilling to sign a prenup, he’s left wondering whether love really is enough — or if this financial mismatch could upend everything they’ve worked toward.
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Prenups aren’t just for the rich
Prenups were once seen as a tool for wealthy grooms to protect themselves from a spouse’s financial habits. But that perception is slowly changing — at least for some.
While only one in five married couples in the U.S. has a prenup, about half of American adults say they somewhat support the idea, according to a recent survey by Axios (2).
Contrary to popular belief, prenups aren’t just for the rich. They also don’t have to protect only the wealthier partner. Instead, a prenup can serve as a financial safety net for both spouses before marriage. When done right, a prenup works like a financial planning tool. Couples can use it to clarify responsibilities, outline debt expectations, discuss potential inheritances and more.
In this case, the fiancée’s refusal to sign a prenup is a red flag. Her US$82,000 in credit card debt was a surprise — and it could have long-term consequences. Instead of viewing a prenup as divorce prep, couples can think of it as a way to protect both of their interests in the long term.
For example, the prenup could lay out the plans for the fiancée’s responsibilities on addressing the extensive credit card debt, maybe with some support from her spouse. If she won’t discuss a prenup or set clear financial expectations before the wedding, it might be time to hit pause. It’s better to iron out these details before walking down the aisle.
Otherwise, shared debts could drag down their financial plans.
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When should you consider a prenup?
While a prenup might not be romantic, it makes sense in certain situations, especially when there’s a financial imbalance. If one partner has significant savings and the other has major debt, a prenup is worth considering.
Other good reasons to consider a prenup include if one partner plans to stop working, if either person owns a business, if either has kids from a previous relationship or if one partner brings substantial assets into the marriage.
Even if it sounds like a good idea, talking about a prenup can be a tough topic to navigate with your partner. The topic is loaded with assumptions and stigma. When you bring it up with your fiancée, do it with care and an open mind.
Instead of focusing on protecting your own assets, aim to protect both of your financial futures — even if you part ways.
Start with a shared goal. Be sure to listen carefully to what your prospective spouse has in mind. If something matters to them, find a way to include it in the agreement.
These conversations aren’t easy. That’s why it helps to start sharing financial information early and consider working with a professional to create a fair agreement that leaves both of you feeling comfortable.
Why keeping your money separate can safeguard your future — and your credit score
When you’re entering a relationship, love may be the focus — but your financial health needs equal attention. Keeping your finances separate, especially when a partner carries significant debt, can protect both your savings and your credit score. Shared accounts and joint credit lines can make you liable for debts you didn’t create, and even a partner’s late payments can impact your own credit history.
Using your own credit card is one of the simplest ways to maintain this separation while still managing day-to-day expenses. A personal card allows you to build or maintain a strong credit score independently, ensuring you have financial stability no matter what happens in your relationship. It also gives you control over your spending limits, repayment habits, and rewards — without the risk of being dragged into someone else’s debt spiral.
While planning for your financial future, consider how to plan your spending. By using a credit card that rewards you for everyday spending, you can live for today while planning for the future.
In the long run, financial independence within a relationship isn’t about mistrust — it’s about ensuring both partners can stand on solid ground, together or apart.
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